"So many people are finding ways to blame themselves," Sandberg said. What if I had come home that night? What if I had called him later than I had? Could I have caught it? I chimed in, saying that I blamed myself too for my brother's death. I had to say 'I'm not a doctor, you know, of course if I couldn't have known,'" Sandberg said. "I had a lot of 'Could I have saved Dave's life?' 'Why didn't I know he had cardiovascular disease?' Like really beating myself up until like I learned that personalization wasn't going to help me. The first thing that can make moving forward more difficult is personalization, or the belief that we are at fault. In dealing with her own grief, Sandberg studied what psychologist Martin Seligman called "the three P's" that hold someone back from recovering from a traumatic event. Sheryl Sandberg with David Goldberg in 2013. Account icon An icon in the shape of a person's head and shoulders.
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